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July 31

As humans we tend to spend our lives worrying about "what if"s. Like "what if" the plane crashes, there is a fire or my computer blows up. What ever happened to enjoying life?

Do we spend too much time worrying about what might go wrong to truely enjoy the things that go right? Are we by nature a pesomistic bunch that truely believes that if anything can go wrong it will?

Don't get me wrong I was in cubs (jnr scouts) for many years and I know the motto is "be prepared". Anyone who has been camping with me knows I like to be ready for all likely eventuallities. I always have money put aside for "a rainy day" and all that.

I know I spend too much time worrying about things. I check the oil in my car every week. I make sure I always have a bit more in the bank then I need. I spend ages worrying about my relationship and my friendships. Is this a bad thing? Should I let what will happen happen and just enjoy life?

There are several things in life which perhaps I dont worry about enough. For instance when I ride on the road I never think "this might be the last time, I might get hit by a car and never ride again". I guess this is an example of the kind of thing that if you worry about it then it will happen because you are too busy worrying about it to prevent it. So what should we worry about and what should we just let flow naturally?

I guess the main thing I want to know is how much should I worry about my relationship. I trust Andrea with all my heart and know that she won't abuse that trust. Yet I still worry about everything I do and say. I know Andrea trusts me too and we talk about everything quite openly so I know we aren't having problems. There have been many times where we are apart and I have found myself thinking I wonder what she really thinks of me. This is despite the fact I know. Is this human nature or me being silly? Our relaionship is soo important that I want to be sure that I dont stuff it up. Is this one of those things where if you worry about it you may be too busy to prevent it going wrong? Or is it one of those things that needs active worrying?

What do you guys worry about? Do you think you worry too much or not enough? Should I stop worrying about worrying? Or about the fact that worrying is worrying me? Is there something that you think I dont worry about enough?

Maybe Alfred E Neuman has it right.

Have fun.

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	Andrea!!!!wrote: Ok so first of all....congrats on the random comments.....I think that is awsome that somehow you have attracted these random people to your site!!! Anyway...... I worry like you wouldn't believe. I worry about all sorts of things. I worry about what people think of me, I worry about where my life is going to take me, I worry about if I am making the right choices for my life and I also worry about our relationship and the other relationships and friendships that are part of my life. I think that worrying is just a part of being human. Everyone does it. But like you said...the question is how much should we worry?? I agree with Martina. You should always worry about yourself first. Put yourself first. Always stop to think if you are happy and if you are enjoying what is happening around you. Don't worry about other people....they don't matter....what does is yourself (hhmmm....maybe I need to take some of this advice...hehe). I think that a lot of worrying comes from the past. I worry about certain things that I didn't like happening again and what I can do to stop them. Or I worry about when/if things that I really liked are going to happen again. Well now you've just got me thinking too much! Aug. 1
	Née wrote: Good one Ed!!! Look what happens when you write thought provoking blog entries... People start thinking... And yes... It is I who is the Crazy Tongan Lady with the "Death to all" car... (it's really not, it's a real family car - honest).. I wasn't trying to kill Ed... I was mearly trying to "scare" him... Well... not even that actually. We were just in the same place at the same time (as is the case VERY often.. somehow.. i think Ed might be stalking me!) PS.. Who is Martina? Is it that Tennis Chick?? Anyway... I agree with her/his/its comments... Aug. 1
	Edwardwrote: Val maybe I should point out that the crazy Tongan chick that "tried to kill me" happends to be Nee and she would never hurt me (would you?). I have had plenty of "close encounters" with plenty of other vehicles over the years and am fairly used to it now. Dave, they are only out to get me so they can find out where you live! They said they know what you did and it is time for revenge.... or something like that. Aug. 1
	David Bishopwrote: Just because you're paranoid, doesn't mean that they aren't out to get you! Seriously though, I know where you are coming from. I worry about all kinds of stupid things, and then don't care enough about what I should (like, exams for instance). Aug. 1
	Compmouse wrote: Did that run in with that lady and her car the other day have some bearing on your recent thoughts of what ifs? As for your relationship, I think you're being pretty normal about the whole thing at the moment. Most people worry about what they say to each other when they don't know each other for very long. You're still getting a feel for the boundaries as it were; you experience this even with friends. After a while you'll get used to each other and feel more comfortable with what you can and can't do, say and can't say, stuff like that. So, how much should you worry? Well, it's one of those things, if you overdo the worrying it's not a good thing and if you underdo the worrying it's not good either. I think in your case, just remember to listen to what she says and don't over-analyze everything you do. I don't know Andrea at all but I'm sure she's not a stupid girl and can take a few hits here and there and will let you know when you've done something wrong. Basically, don't be a jerk and you'll be fine. Aug. 1
	Adz wrote: I don't worry about anything. I believe everything happens in life for a reason, and living life is all about dealing with those things. What happens if you break up with the person you love? Do you kill yourself? Hopefully not. You get over it and get on with your life. Everyone controls their own destiny, and as long as you believe in yourself you shouldn't need to worry. There is a distinct difference between worrying and being prepared. Worrying doesn't have any beneficial by-products. The feeling of being worried is an emotion that we have control over, and in most cases is wasted energy. Don't worry, be happy. Be alert, not alarmed. July 31
	Casey wrote: I'd like to think after my overseas adventure my perception on life is completely different to what it was 12 months ago.Before I use to worry about what people thought of me, if people liked me, why don't I get the guys I want and so on. Now I suppose the only thing I worry about is when I'm on my death bed will I be happy with what I have done with my life? WIll I get to see all the places in the world that I want to see? Will I make fabulous memories with friends and family? Will people remember me as someone who made their life happier? I think worrying is a good think, it makes you try harder to prevent what it is you worry might happen. But then there is a limit, and when you're worrying about worrying too much, then you need to relax and just let it go. The only thing for certain is you can't control people or your life, so just roll with the punches and it all tends to work out in the end. TRUST ME! July 31
	Martina wrote: when my relationship first began i threw myself in head first and didn't worry about anything such as cheating etc. there may have been a little jealousy here and there but nothing to major. our rlationship was fantastic for a long time. no fights. even when i went away to college our relationship stayed strong. i never thought about what ifs. i never worried about what if they cheat on me. that is of course until it happened. from the moment i found out i always wondered what if it happens again. can i go through this again. i didn't want to be lied to but i didn't want to know the truth at the same time. but now that i know it i have to live with it. had the secret not come out in the first place they would have had to live with it by themselves forever and id be free of the torture of worry. i do think it is possible to worry too little and to worry too much in various circumstances but with regards to relationships i think you should come first. dont worry about if they cheat on you or if you will stuff things up. worry about being yourself being true to yourself and being honest. if the relationship matters so much to you then just do the right thing. if eventually the right thing isnt enough anymore and you cant help the situation then let go and move on. What ever happens happens. i think stuff is just meant to be. for good or bad stuff happens for a reason. Maybe Doris Day has it right. que será, será http://www.lyriczz.com/lyriczz.php?songid=12960 July 31
	Ed wrote: WOW.... my first random person :) I love random people. And just for the record my worry isn't along the lines of "is she going to cheat on me" because I KNOW that Andrea won't do that to me or anyone for that matter. My worry is along the lines of "what if I stuff this up". Also just for the record I'm not paranoid.... am I? I could be... but wouldn't I know? Maybe I should check. Arrghhhhh. July 31
	Michellewrote: I could've sworn you spoke to my inner worrier and she replied "HELL YEA!" I worry heaps. I understand where you are comming from with your GF coz i do the same with my BF. He's the most wonderfull person i know... but there always seems to be the ongoing questioning in the back of your mind that makes you worry. "what if" he cheats on me, he doesn't love me as much as i love him... ra ra ra all the rest of it. I think that maybe the whole worrying part of a relationship is actually ment to be there. I think that the more you worry the more you care about the people/person whom you're worrying about. But be carefull not to worry too much coz your worry can turn into Paranoia! Come visit my space, i would like you to comment on a political Blog of mine, i would value your oppinion. Thanks Chief Mishka July 31

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